Mama-Hood
It’s no secret that mama hood is hard! I’m sure you’ve heard the tales of childbirth being the worst pain in the world; that’s how they prepare you for your entry into motherhood. We hear stories of the terrible twos and then come the threes, the fours, etc. It’s like every year until the end of time we’re being prepared for doomsday only it lasts for our lifetime. When you become a parent it's a forever kind of job not just a till you’re 18 kind of deal. I know so many of you might have experienced that but now look at us; adults that are trying to break those generational traumas and stereotypes. Why do they make mama hood seem like a job no one would ever voluntarily sign up for yet also in that same sentiment tell us how beautiful it is? To enjoy it while it lasts? Because you know your kids are going to grow up and forget about you.
Why is that the constant narrative? The miracle of a baby that was grown in our bodies; our beautiful, mystical bodies that not only builds a human but provides the meals after we pop 'em out. Why is the job of nurturing a tiny human to be a decent person set up like that? I mean if I’m being honest it is hard! But I also do see the beauty in it as well. It can absolutely be both so instead of scaring the shit out of women why not build her up? Why not give her the resources, the village, that community that we so desperately need? I have found that mama hood is a lonely one and even when I’ve been surrounded by loved ones I’ve felt so alone. We can’t speak up because of fear of being looked at as a terrible mom for not being chipper at every turn or milestone.
Although us mamas are goddess warriors we are also human! We have needs, we have feelings, we desire peace and love and joy without the stress of being judged for wanting those things. It makes it harder when we express those big vulnerable feelings and we’re met with invalidation; brushed off or just ignored. We need community and that’s what I want to build here. I want other mamas out there to know that although they may not feel like it, they are inspiring others especially those little ones (or grown ones), you are worthy of support, you are worthy to not be pressured to live by society’s standards of the conventional mom.
You can create your own story and your own book on motherhood. There’s so many of us out here!