The Impact of a Moment in life

When you look back on your life there’s a list of things that you’ve experienced that have significantly changed your life. It could have been something small like a talk or a word someone said to you. It could be a stranger you passed but something about that day stood with you and impacted your life in a way that you chose to make a certain decision based off of. I know for myself I can remember things as far back as when I was 4 and I witnessed my dad put his hands on my mom. A moment in time I would never forget and has always followed me in my decisions especially in how passionate I am when it comes to domestic violence awareness. There’s the memories of grandma's home cooked meals and spending the summers playing outside with the neighborhood kids. When summertime hits and you feel that specific breeze at the right time a day there’s something nostalgic about it all. 

More recently my dad passed away due to cancer and the feeling of losing a parent knowing that pain as a child although I am an adult at this point hurts. It hurts me to think that my children would feel the depth of sadness and grief that I have felt. The ache of the idea of knowing that he won’t get to watch my children grow gave me a sense of myself and my own health in a way that has made me want to take care of myself so I can enjoy more years with my children and their children. I remember a few years back getting a call that my grandma had wound up in the hospital and it turns out they found cancer in her as well. Luckily it was caught on time and she’s gained some additional years with us and seeing her build memories with my son melts my heart. It’s a feeling so difficult to describe but it was these moments that shifted my mindset in wanting to live my life to the fullest and do the things I love while taking care of myself and also building something my children can look back on and be proud of their mama. There’s so much life that I want to continue living for them and for myself. I want to continue my efforts in bringing awareness to domestic violence. I want to continue to speak about the importance of self care and self love because we are worthy of it. 

It starts within; when we are fulfilled we overflow onto others and that’s the beauty of it all. A cycle that we can get behind one where we love ourselves so much we want to take care of ourselves so we can enjoy those little moments of life. The little joys of time spent, laughter in the wind, starry nights and a life filled with love. 

I have so many little moments that were big for me that changed my trajectory in this lifetime and I would love to hear some of yours. What happened in your life that made you shift; what made you look at how you were going along and made you want to change for the better? Leave me a comment, leave me a voice message on anchor podcast or send me a DM, email, connect with me. I would love to hear your story and share with our community!



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